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Wolf dad Xiaobai?
Xiaobai (microblogging), Hong Kong businessman. Recently, a book about his own parenting, praised the "fight" of education. It will be compared with the "American Tiger Mom" Amy Chua children, saying he is "Chinese wolf dad."
Video: Father with corporal punishment in educating future generations four children three into the North Source: Sina podcast
In many media reports, the wolf dad is so "ruthless": children are not allowed to watch TV, free Internet access, participate in reunions, with pocket money, can not have a hobby, you can not challenge the authority of parents; beaten inevitable mistakes, sore and beaten heavier.
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Some have questioned the wolf dad education is "servile education", will hurt the child's mind, the child can not have a happy childhood.
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However, although the lead vocal opposition, but the wolf dad insisted that he is "the best father in the world."
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Wolf dad summed media educational experience: "three days a beating, the child into the North."
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Fight result: wolf dad of four children, the eldest two through the "Hong Kong, Macao and Taiwan national exam," admitted to Peking University; this summer, the third also admitted to the North; being read three fourth of the target aimed at the Central Conservatory of Music.
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At home, the wolf dad is authoritative and center. Living room sofa pendulum method, vividly reflect this: the coffee table as the center, Xiaobai sit theme, is a single sofa opposite the TV; Theme on both sides, are two couches, left long little, sitting three daughters, the right to sit Xiao Xiao Yao wife and eldest son. "Everyone has their own position, can not be changed."
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Wolf dad believes that behind the "fight of education", hides a "rules education": He is not no reason to fight, it is not to vent their emotions to play, what he had to the children set the rules, once violated, will be punished. Text, graphics / reporter Tan Jun in Beijing
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["Rules" Education]
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"Can not magnify this fight, there are ways of"
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Xiaoxiang Morning News (microblogging) (microblogging): Why must fight people?
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Xiaobai: 12 years ago, corporal punishment is necessary, feasible, because he has not formed a complete values. Some experts say, keep up the child to speak the truth. I said, children three years old, do not eat, how to say do not eat, you try? In addition to playing you can think of way? Experts say it is hungry his meal, can not play. Between hunger and fight, you say what does not? - You can not enlarge this fight, there are methods.
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Xiaoxiang Morning News: What do you specifically how to play?
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Xiaobai: First of all, children do not hit him unprepared. Let the child know that playing is because he violated the rules. Secondly, definitely not cuffed. Between conflicting body is the most hurtful. So I choose to use the cane, which is a feather duster, toughness, elastic, flesh wound does not hurt bones, and let him feel the pain. This is a special punishment tool, absolutely no other. Third, do not say children can not hear, do not speak the language rant abuse, urban ruffian words.
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Xiaobai: education, psychology, physiology, experts say, and I have seen a lot of this book. In addition, the children for school, every principal, teacher, and I kept telling them to communicate. But in the end I never ask how to teach children. I'll baby with the past, I left in the middle period, let the children talk session with the teacher, then the kids go, I talk to the teacher exchange. The core content of communication with the teacher,http://store.shopping.yahoo.co.jp/gion/dct-01-cocoon.html], will not let the children know. Because the prestige of teachers and parents will drop, the child would be harmed. Do not take vulnerable people to do the test.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: how do you set the rules of the children?
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Xiaobai: a half years old child, I began to think the rules. Rules to be fully quantified. For example, the age of eight smash the glass, playing five under. I believe quantify, must be quantified, such as to a 11-year-old set of rules, one day before the 12th birthday can also be complied with (by playing the way) to change. Fortunately, the rules should have been set there, the child's thinking is necessary to clamp down early in the morning.
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Xiaoxiang Morning News: Many parents will give children set the rules, but it will perform soft-hearted.
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Xiaobai: that is emotional parents, is not rational parents, parents should be changed. Be a good rule, I will perform. Let them grew to know his father's dignity, his father is uncompromising, always right. I hit a child, he could not cry, a cry that is innocence. Was over, he went to my mother, how to cry, I do not care. That was his way of communication with her mother. Not all play, but do not fight not.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: Give your child the rules given so much, yourself? Life is very principle it?
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Xiaobai: educating children, at home, I never make mistakes, which is self-discipline. I also made mistakes on the outside, I have three days to play mahjong.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: since he could not promise not to make mistakes, why should so many rules require that children given?
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Xiaoxiang Morning News: Why do I have to repair the highway it, without providing a prairie?
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Xiaobai: put a child into the prairie, he will lose, you will not find the right direction. Like taking a youth into a primeval forest, he threatened to survive, if not through a special skill training, he died three days will be a mosquito bite, bitten dead two seconds, even the ants will put him Differentiation off. Parents are guardians, to understand the "guardianship" word.
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["Fight" not all]
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"In addition to playing, I even told they did a lot of things together."
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Put a child into the prairie, he will lose, you will not find the right direction.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: Your child is you train was so unruly, will come to the community whether they would encounter a lot of confusion? For example, many do not follow the rules to do things.
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Xiaobai: home rule, with company rules and social rules are not the same. The rules have family inside the house, the company is an interest rules, social rules are rigid.
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Social issues, I usually will communicate with them constantly analyze with them according to the degree that they can accept. Such as the recent incident of Foshan 18 passers-by. I told them analyze what the 18 personal background of life,http://www.simu001.cn]zhuzhou###/home.php?mod=spacecp&ac=blog&blogid=][µÚһ˽ļÂÛ̳]http://www.simu001.cn]zhuzhou###/home.php?mod=spacecp&ac=blog&blogid=], their behavior by thinking of the decision. This thing is certainly wrong, but could not say who is to blame boldly say, 18 people are right. If you, would you? Leave them thinking that this thing wrong in what?
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Xiaobai: Lost what? Why must I pay genius friends?
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Xiaoxiang Morning News: You do not say, "knows nothing" it?
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Xiaobai: "Zhu," did not say a genius. Not necessary, we ordinary, all on the line at this level.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: You are not allowed to have children extracurricular activities, plant once the home of Xiao Yao in the trash. Will this ruin a future botanist?
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Xiaobai: botanist not flowers grown in, it is to the university after the educational system generated. Yuan Longping did not get planted fields, a child never played Siguang stone. Students with physical and moral-based, not in the hobby-based. Plaything inevitably be despondent.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: Your child will be a miserable childhood memories of it?
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Xiaobai: I do not think, because in addition to playing, I even told them a lot of things done together. My life is required, I told the kids to the kitchen, to teach them how steamed fish, it is a communication. Xiao Yao is now a person can make a table of food. Also to travel, we chatted in the car, I will put opera, a sentence to teach them to sing. My driving skills are very good, drove them to Baiyun Mountain, walking forty to fifty curved mountain road, to see what they pushed it, pushed it about, as well as down the mountain, I do not hit the steering wheel, to see four children In that scream, which is a form of communication, their laughter rippling out, what is ringing laugh ...... I think they are very happy.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: You are corporate executives, book selling is good you do not care, why are you so willing to talk about your parenting it? You are showing off it?
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Xiaobai: to share with parents, many parents have this willingness of the children to develop successful, and I did get a lot of pleasure in the education of children, to see them grow. Such as Xiao Yao, after three years of study at the university, I think he's thinking, the mind has more than me. I'm just a rule of thumb, Yilaomailao. Not to show off ...... Well, even flaunt it ...... also worth showing off. You have a beautiful hair you want to show off, not to mention or their children.
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"What is more equitable than the exam-oriented education,hogan outlet]?"
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Xiaoxiang Morning: Why are certain requirements on child Beida? Is it only the North to be successful?
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Xiaobai: Olympic champion only one, but everyone in the dispute. You can take the runner-up, but we always applaud only for the championship. In some places the Olympics will give the last applause, but this is only an encouragement.
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My kids grew up on is the best kindergarten, primary school best, the best schools. Son in high school, I think his level, in full compliance with the requirements of Chinese character-class universities, liberal arts get on the North.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: child had problems with your examination-oriented education to reflect it?
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Xiaobai: no. They will not have any questions posed by the teacher. I ask them to respect the teacher: day as a teacher, father for life. I never see the children work, fully convinced the school. If my view is not the same with the teacher, who he listen? As long as you keep the previous five grades, I would not care for you.
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Xiaobai: This can not blame the parents. Every parent wants their child to become their own best minds of people. Some want to be like Yao Ming,http://verdamilio.info/org/spip.php?article1321/], Lang Lang did. And I, like happens to like Xiao Yao Qian did. Since there is this desire, it would move in this direction.
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Of course there are cases of failure, that is life. Tree, so melon, sown, the key is not to see a good block, the final analysis is the number of parents to pay. This problem can not Conversely, you can not say what the parents want to have children, resulting in a larger social pressures.
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Xiaoxiang Morning: You do not have negative emotions of exam-oriented education?
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Xiaobai: Over the years, the examination system has been extended. More than one billion Chinese people, too much competition. What is more equitable than the examination-oriented education? Do not criticize, to adapt to it. Schools teach, you teach to press. Because of this bridge is built, must too. Looking back, personalized answers, you can have. If the syllabus say the ball is round, you have to remember is round. Looking back,http://118.244.151.112/forum.php?mod=viewthread&tid=599955], there is no football oval, square, you go to study ah.
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There is no examination system and both into the part? There, to my children from my college entrance exam, twenty years, there have been new policy to and fro improve, the state education have wracked my mind.
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